It's all so *fucking* heterosexual!
I can't take it sometimes.
It's all such a presupposition.
"Normal" people assume a heteresexual marriage.
A boy-boy meets a girl-girl and they fall in love.
They get married and become <puke> "Man and Wife."
Reproduction follows, genetics are preserved.
I mean, two walking talking near stereotypes
of the American Dream have a right to be happy
if that's what they want.
What makes me ill is that they seem to want to force this lifestyle on everyone.
And the man has to be the "man" and the woman has to be the "woman"
or face ridicule + ostracization.
Take the queer scene, the "normal" homosexuals first.
They are aware of the above and nearly as appalled as I.
They know it doesn't have to be two partners of the same sex, but
in many cases, one will play the "man" and the other will play the "woman"
even though they are the same sex and
have been pressured towards the same gender
except they call it "femme" and "butch"
or "top" and "bottom"
Take the transgender scene: Trannys, TS, TG, CD.
These are people with more open, or at least alternative ideas of gender
than both the "normal" hetersexuals and the "normal" homosexuals
a casual observation will lead one to conclude that
the FTMs go for femmes
while the MTFs go for butch
FTMs generally with feminine [bio-]women and occasionally an MTF
MTFs generally with masculine [bio-]men and occasionally an FTM
Where did all this butch/femme dichotomy come from?
If we know (and we should) that humans are not limited to 2 distinct genders
and we know (as we should) that humans are not limited to 2 distinct sexes
then why on earth would we be limited to playing relationships and sexuality as a gender war?
And what about those people who fall through the cracks as neither quite "butch" or "femme"?
What if a pseudo-femme gender outlaw of a bio-boy wants a pseudo-femme gender outlaw of a bio-girl?
or a femme-enlightened feminist of a bio-girl [or bio-boy]?
What if I do not want my polar opposite?
What if I want someone kinda like me, but maybe with a different body type?
I'm not saying that the heterosexual paradigm shouldn't exist, that
people shouldn't be allowed to play "butch" and "femme", "dom" and "sub", just
that there are other options and why are we so limiting, so presumptive
in our instant categorization of people?
Why should anyone have to "pass" or be instantly "top" or "bottom"?
Maybe we need to practice being "versatile."